Cycle 5: May 31 to July 4, 2021

Week 4 Messages of the Week

Junior - Beginner

Message of the Week - GOOD MANNERS: Playground Manners

This week we are going to talk about the importance of being a strong-on-the-inside leader who is good to others. At recess or on the playground there are kids that are nice and others that are mean and selfish. It takes someone who is a strong-on-the-inside leader to share and let others go first. It is a good leader who gives praise for a good effort, or who says nice things about others. It is a mean person who talks bad, puts others down, or teases others when they mess up.

Envision two kids, the first one always pushes to be the first in line, grabs toys away from the other kids, and doesn’t share well. To make matters worse, he is always the first to laugh when someone else messes up. The second kid is good at sharing and will always invite someone who is left out to play in the game. He is quick to say, “Good try, I’m sure you’ll do better next time” when someone messes up. Having good manners when playing with other kids might be hard at first, but in the long run it brings you more friends and fun. When you grow up and become an adult, how do you want to be remembered, as someone who was selfish and mean, or as a strong-on-the-inside leader?

This week, let’s practice being a good, strong-on-the-inside leader.

Junior - Intermediate, Advanced & Black Belt

Message of the Week - CONTRIBUTION

Read the following three silly stories and try to find the common thing in each story.

Story 1: Once there was a fisherman who fell into icy cold water. He just barely managed to get out of the water and drag himself through the snow to a cabin. Once he was in the cabin he noticed that the fire in the fireplace had gone out. So he got a stick of wood and hit the fireplace with it and loudly said, “Give me some heat and I’ll give you some wood!”

Some people hear a silly story like this one and think, "Who in their right mind would do that?" Let’s find out. Do you know anyone who might have done one of the following:

Story 2: Once there was a student who didn’t like his teacher very much. She always gave him bad grades. He didn’t like to study for her class because he was mad at her. He thought to himself that he’ll study harder when she becomes nicer.

Story 3: Once there was a child who said to herself “My parents are so mean. Don’t they know that I’ll spend time cleaning my room after I play?”

Many times, kids and adults believe that they should be rewarded. However, they don’t realize that they can change the level at which they are rewarded by first changing the value of their contribution! Did you know that in life, your rewards and achievements will be equal to the contribution you put in - and that you must contribute first!

So what do you think – did the fisherman freeze or did he figure out that he must first give the fireplace wood before it could give him heat? What about the student, or the child?

This week let’s concentrate on contributing more energy, effort, time, and talent to our families, chores, homework and in the classroom.



Last week we discussed the concept of “Make them feel important”. Remember, people like to be around people that make them feel good about themselves. This week we are going to discuss the concept of never underestimating the value of a smile.

Have you ever known someone that was pretty much always happy? Chances are that whenever you saw them, they were smiling. Were they smiling because they were happy or were they happy because they were smiling? The point is, smiling will never hurt your mood. In fact, it will almost always help it. Also, If you smile at someone, they might smile back. It is said that a smile confuses an approaching frown. Quite simply, a smile is contagious. If you want to change the energy of a room, smile. Remember, when you are at the dojo, give away as many smiles as possible, especially to a new students or other people that you don’t know.

Below is are some written quotes about the power of a simple smile:

• Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a
beautiful thing. ~Mother Teresa
• You're never fully dressed without a smile. ~Martin Charnin
• A smile can brighten the darkest day. ~Author Unknown
• It takes seventeen muscles to smile and forty-three to frown. ~Author Unknown
• Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important. ~Janet Lane
• All the statistics in the world can't measure the warmth of a smile. ~Chris Hart
• If you would like to spoil the day for a grouch, give him a smile. ~Author Unknown
• Smile - it increases your face value. ~Author Unknown

This week make an effort to smile more often.